He wants you to be his keyholder. 

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Your husband or boyfriend has just announced his chastity fetish to you.  What are you supposed to do?

Firstly let's consider the basic elements of his chastity desires.  Chastity today is primarily about denial and submission. Denial is nothing new, its part of our every day lives, and something we all experience in one way or another.

The concept of denial is with us in many forms.  Many people go on diets or limit the kinds of food they eat, such as chocolates, cakes and biscuits.  Others regularly join health clubs and work through demanding routines in the gym.  Still more people become slaves to their jobs, working long hours when they could be enjoying themselves.  

All of the above are forms of denial, and there are many more for that matter, and they all have one thing in common - there is something in it for the person being denied. We engage in healthy denials for either personal benefit or pleasure.  So aspects of denial are with us throughout our lives, denial in itself is nothing new, we all deny our self certain pleasures to achieve a greater goal, and this is one of the driving forces behind your man's desire for chastity. 

When we look at male chastity we see one of the most fundamental denials possible, sexual gratification.  Your man wants to deny himself orgasm for the pleasure of experiencing that one special orgasm, the one you have granted him.  He wants to be denied his own pleasures and will carry out tasks around the house, to receive the greater pleasure of pleasing you, of being attentive to your daily and sexual needs in order for him to receive your praise and approval of his behaviour.

Your man's submissive need for denial linked with you granting his orgasms can form part of a chastity lifestyle or be a wonderful chastity playtime pleasure lasting from anything from one day to many months, and there's a lot you can gain from this too.  But only if you want to.

If your emotional and sexual relationship with your man is strong and healthy, introducing male chastity can bring something unique and special into your lives.  But you need to find your own way of dominating him, find your own style, you don't have the be the leather clad dominatrix he's probably fantasised about for years. You need to be You.

Below is a list a web sites which you may find very useful, of those I've selected the first 5 are written by women, and not from the male fantasy perspective of female domination.

Tickleberry have their own section on male chastity and a page of useful tips "Wives & Girlfriends" that offers suggestions on what to do when your man first approaches you about his need to introduce his submissive self into your relationship.

"Uniquely Rika" its a well constructed site with a great deal of useful and sensible information on dominating a submissive male, Rika's style is a "refreshing alternative to the Tie 'em,  Rack 'em and Whack 'em approach". 

Akasha's web site has a section for women called Enjoying Female Dominance which is a guide "devoted to sharing the passion of female dominance with women who are curious, have submissive partners or think they may have some dominant tendencies"

Mistress Lori also has some useful information on her site which is more specifically about male chastity than Rika's site which is also worth reading, particularly her page about Controlling Male Masturbation and Orgasm, Mistress Lori's web site may be better suited to the more naturally dominant woman, who relishes the idea of controlling her man, others may find some of her suggestions humiliating, even so her writings provide some good valuable background reading. 

Another site worth a visit is that of Elise Sutton, particularly if you already are aware of an emerging dominant streak within you.  Elise is a lifestyle Dominant Woman who believes in Female Supremacy and practices Female Domination.

Caring Domination - Caring for a submissive husband.  

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